Low self-esteem has become an epidemic in this country. Feelings of unworthiness can begin at a young age and, if neglected, can potentially lead to depression and anxiety.
Because low self-esteem can cause such harm, finding ways to feel better about ourselves and our abilities is essential. These five techniques can help you feel more confident and secure about yourself.
1. Imposter Syndrome
Negative self-talk is a common issue for people with low self-esteem. If your inner critic is constantly beating you up, it’s important you quiet that voice. Try to replace negative comments with positive or uplifting comments. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, think about your strengths and abilities.
2. The Danger of Comparison
Comparison is the thief of joy, as the old saying puts it. Each of us is unique. Sadly, instead of celebrating that fact, many of us spend far too much time comparing ourselves with our peers, friends, co-workers, and so on. When we find some way in which we don’t quite measure up to their standards, we feel inadequate. Stop comparing yourself to others and instead concentrate on being the best version of you that you can be.
3. The Problem of Perfectionism
Being flawed is normal. We’re all human and so we are all imperfect. That’s OK. Don’t strive to be perfect because you won’t succeed and you’ll end up frustrated and fatigued. Before you say that so many celebrities are perfectly beautiful and lead perfect lives, guess again. Hollywood’s A-listers are usually photoshopped and many people whose names you know have been treated for depression, addiction, or other mental health issues. They are human and struggling like anyone else, like you.
Stop chasing perfection. Instead, create attainable goals for yourself.
4. Loving Your Body
Many people struggle with body image issues. Much of it is because of the photoshopping mentioned above. It’s hard to love your body when you are expected to look like the people that grace the covers of magazines.
Instead of worrying about what your body looks like, or how much you weigh or how toned your muscles are, focus on health. Be grateful for your health and make the right choices so you can always feel good and vibrant.
5. Limiting Social Media
While there are benefits to social media, it can also set unrealistic expectations about both relationships and lifestyles. Remember that online people tend to only post images that make their lives seem awesome. But what you see online is almost never a reality. Be careful not to spend too much time looking at other people’s lives. This will often simply lead to you feeling more insecure about your own.
If self-esteem issues have become a serious problem in your life, leading to anxiety and depression, you may want to work with a therapist who can help you handle your memories and emotions.
If you or a loved one is interested in exploring treatment, please contact us today. We would be happy to speak with you about how we may be able to help.
At Chaos to Calm Counseling, we work with couples and individuals to facilitate healthy relationships for the betterment of families and society at large. Learn more about our team, schedule a free consult, or call us at (978) 241-2881.
